I have done 2 bar mitzvahs in my career at fig media. This one would be my second. On Saturday, I worked with Andrew at a bowling alley in Hyde Park for Daniel's Bat Mitzvah party. This would prove to be one of my more challenging gigs.
Upon arrival Andrew and I set up in the private bowling alley, touched base with the planner, and worked on our strategy.
I would facilitate the games, and Andrew would play the music.
We started out playing fun punk rock versions of old songs, some current hip hop/pop, and enjoying our free refills at the soda bar.
Once guests started arriving we got an ipod from one of the kids with a play list on it to choose music from. Andrew and I took turns choosing music and watching to see how the kids were responding.
After the first hour we realized that the flow of the event was going to be more challenging than we thought. With an activity such as bowling for the kids to engage in, the first hour went be fast. Kids were bowling, coming up and giving us requests.
As dinner began to wind down, the father of the birthday boy came over and said it was our turn to take it away.
I realized in that statement.... that I was unclear about how much of the evening we would be facilitating.
I started the round of games out with balloon games, musical chair treasure hunt, a soul train dance, and then opened the dance floor for dancing and requests.
The kids did not pick up on dancing and went to playing video games, bowling, and standing in groups and talking.
Soon the parents approached us again and asked us to play more games.
Feeling scared and unprepared, I looked at Andrew and asked.... well what should we do?
We decided to wing it and go with what we knew how to do.
I got a follow the leader dance going, played a Simon says type-dancing games giving out commands for how to dance. My favorite...Andrew came up with "dance with just your eye lids" I learned that just being in a kid like space and playing helped a lot.
I then lead the cha cha slide, a snowball dance, another follows the leader dance, and a freeze dance followed by a fast motion slow motion dance.
After the last game I was running out of ideas, and was still feeling the pressure to entertain the kids and keep the party going.
They did one more round of bowling, and asked us to do one last round of games.
We decided on the limbo. One boy was so limber I was shocked at how he could squeeze under the bar.
After that the kids all put on sweatshirts that said "Daniels bat mitzvah" took a picture and then slowly started to depart.
Wanting to close the evening, and not feeling satisfied that I had celebrated the birthday boy enough. I got the whole party together...put Daniel in the middle and had everyone do a huddle around him, put their hands on his head and give one last cheer for him.
I then thanked the crowd and began to pack things up.
My learns from this gig, ask lots of questions.
I was not prepared to lead 3 hours of games, and was not clear on the client expectations or what my lead DJ expected from me.
Next gig that I do with games, I will be sure to ask more questions, get a clearer vision and insist on a pre meeting to talk about the night.
My wins were using my skills to my best ability to play, Dj'ing and helping with song selections, and acting on my impulses and being creative with game choices.